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I wrote this on my Facebook page today –
The topic my students are discussing today is not the excitement of summer break or the celebration of Graduation ceremonies.
It is of Denver, of UNCC, of “are we prepared” if something happens to us?
They are asking,
“Is it bullying that causes it?”
“Is it video games causing it?”
“Is it easy access causing it?”
“Is it mental illness?”
I don’t have the answers. And it is something I myself have asked for the past 20 years after sitting in English class during a lockdown waiting to hear the news about my friends who attended Heritage High School.
I can teach about leadership. I can teach about kindness. I can teach about learning styles and personality types. But when it comes to this – school shootings – I feel helpless about what to teach other than what to do when it occurs.”
I know many parents and educators feel similar to the way I do. Helpless. Not sure of what actions we can take. Grateful that we have our children we can hug a little tighter.
But with my students wanting to know something – I found these five articles that I am sharing with you. Articles that might give more insight than I ever can.
I share the message “Let’s R.O.C.K.” and hope that asking my students to Radiate Outrageous Compassion & Kindness will serve them well.
New here? I have these blog posts to help you help youth Radiate Outrageous Compassion & Kindness.
Article You Should Read: The Denver Post
In the Denver Post’s article, How to talk to children after STEM School shooting in Highlands Ranch, they give tips from the National Association of School Psychologists.
- Keep conversations age appropriate
- Discuss the difference between reality and fantasy with middle grades children
- Send students to school with an item that provides comfort
Mental health experts say parents should listen and talk to their children about their concerns when there is school violence or a threat. News of such violence can cause anxiety, but a child may be more vulnerable to the incident because of previous trauma or loss.
Article You Should Read: Parents.Com
Parents.com, How to Explain School Shootings to Kids, was written after the attack at Parkland.
- Be careful of your reaction
- Discuss different feelings that might come up
- Ask if there are ways the child would like to help
Some children are better able to cope with a tragedy if they feel they’re doing something to make it better. If your child is interested, help her think of ways she or the family can assist the community affected by a shooting. Doing things like sending cards to students at the school, hosting a bakesale or penny drive to raise money for the families of the victims, or saying a prayer for the injured can make kids feel they’re doing some good.
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Article You Should Read: TODAY
How to talk to children about shootings: An age-by-age guide is an article that responds to the concern we have as parents that this conversation has to happen over and over again.
- Early grades – use one-sentence stories
- Elementary – Shield them from media
- Middle Grades – Discuss feelings
- High School – Talk about solutions
There’s no one way to address tragedies with children, and how parents approach it depends both on the child’s age and temperament. The American Psychiatric Association and the American Academy of Pediatrics recommend avoiding the topic with children until they reach a certain age – around 8, but again, it depends on the child.
Want to inspire your kids or your students? Check out our new book – 52 Kids who R.O.C.K. Every Day: Inspiring stories of young people who Radiate Outrageous Compassion & Kindness.
52 Inspiring stories
One 10 year old started a nonprofit to deliver toys and books to kids in waiting rooms at hospitals needing cancer treatment.
One 9 year old decided that for his birthday he only wanted gifts that he could donate to other kids.
One 10 year old is selling 5000 boxes of cookies to win a Disney Trip that she will donate to a sick child.
This book is filled with these stories and also provides 52 project ideas to your students for ways they can be kind in the classroom and around the community.